You can learn from the mistakes of others or you can learn from your own failure. Let me be your guide as I share lessons & insights from my years of coaching men to become the Hero of their family's story.
Why Your Kids Keep Going and Going...
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Can we borrow joy from our kids? The word borrow is a bit misleading… Kids naturally have so much joy in their lives that they wouldn’t notice if we did borrow some, but the reality is that it’s not a zero-sum game. When we gain joy from their joy, they lose nothing. It’s not a 1-for-1 trade like most of our adult world is. Just like how they seem to leave a mess in any room they walk through, they also leave energy, laughter & excitement… we just might not notice. Like dirty fingerprints on everything they touch, their joy leaves marks all through our lives… if we let it. The times where they laugh uncontrollably… Remember the Energizer Bunny commercials? My kids seem to just “keep going and going and going…” At the end of a long day (or the beginning of one), it’s easy to think I don’t have the energy for this! What if my perception was all wrong? Can you take just a few minutes to watch and enjoy the presence of your kids? Let them remind you why you work so hard to take care of and provide for them. When we borrow their joy, we too can “keep going and going and going…” P.S. When you're ready, there are 3 ways that I can help you:
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How To Not Fail As A Father
You can learn from the mistakes of others or you can learn from your own failure. Let me be your guide as I share lessons & insights from my years of coaching men to become the Hero of their family's story.
Having daughters exploded my brain. With my son, I thought I understood what it meant to be a father.He made me reflect on who I was as a man, because I knew I was his model for becoming one. So I worked on myself.Sharpened my edges.Cleaned up my act.I wanted to be a man he could look up to—someone worthy of becoming. Then came my daughters.One.Then a second.Then a third. And everything changed again. With sons, we’re modeling how to act.How to handle stress.How to lead.How to win, lose, and...
Frederick Douglass said, "It's easier to build strong children than to repair broken men." To build strong children, we must first repair the broken men that we are. We must re-parent ourselves and become the father we always needed, so we can be the father our children need now. There is no shame in this, only shame in hiding from the responsibility. Part of our calling to build strong children is teaching and showing them how to rebuild and heal themselves. Even a perfect father (spoiler...
One night, my 6 year old seemed upset before bed. As I was tucking her in, I asked her what was wrong. “I’m scared," she replied. ”Of what?” I asked, expecting a monster under the bed or a bad dream from last night… ”I’m scared of YOU,” she said, “I’m scared you’re going to yell at me.” This was one of those answers that was so completely unexpected, it almost gave me whiplash. I realized that instead of protecting her from the monsters, I had become the monster… I had been frustrated having...