You can learn from the mistakes of others or you can learn from your own failure. Let me be your guide as I share lessons & insights from my years of coaching men to become the Hero of their family's story.
Raising Strong Children & Repairing Broken Men
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Frederick Douglass said, "It's easier to build strong children than to repair broken men." To build strong children, we must first repair the broken men that we are. We must re-parent ourselves and become the father we always needed, so we can be the father our children need now. There is no shame in this, only shame in hiding from the responsibility. Part of our calling to build strong children is teaching and showing them how to rebuild and heal themselves. Even a perfect father (spoiler alert: they don't exist) couldn't shield his children from an imperfect world... they are going to get hurt. But we don't need to fear our children being wounded... the wounds are opportunities. We have daily opportunities to teach our kids how to be resilient and how to heal... --->If you want more guidance on how exactly to do this, here are 2 episodes of our podcast that are recommended listening: Episode 89: Raising Strong Kids & Re-Parenting Yourself and Episode 55: The Demons We Pass On To Our Children. The key to raising strong children is providing them the tools & support to rebuild themselves. Then, allowing them to use them. And the key to providing these tools and support is learning how to use them for ourselves. "But I don't have anything I need to heal..." you might say. Everyone has demons. And many men, out of pride or fear, refuse to admit this is true. If you're too proud or scared to admit you have demons, then you've sealed the fate of your children. The demons you refuse to confront in yourself are guaranteed to pass on to your children. And it won't be easy. But, the only thing harder than confronting your own demons is watching them be passed on to your children. If that's not the legacy you want to leave, there are 3 ways I can help you...
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How To Not Fail As A Father
You can learn from the mistakes of others or you can learn from your own failure. Let me be your guide as I share lessons & insights from my years of coaching men to become the Hero of their family's story.
One night, my 6 year old seemed upset before bed. As I was tucking her in, I asked her what was wrong. “I’m scared," she replied. ”Of what?” I asked, expecting a monster under the bed or a bad dream from last night… ”I’m scared of YOU,” she said, “I’m scared you’re going to yell at me.” This was one of those answers that was so completely unexpected, it almost gave me whiplash. I realized that instead of protecting her from the monsters, I had become the monster… I had been frustrated having...
50% of marriages end in divorce. We’ve all heard this statistic so often that it’s easy to brush off. With repetition, it’s easy to tune it out and not consider the implications. And of those who do think about it, most don’t think it applies to them. I know that when I got married, it certainly didn’t feel like I was gambling on a coin flip… Let’s add some additional info into the mix and present the math a bit differently… Yes, 50% of marriages end in divorce. In the book You Can Be Right...
I just got sidetracked at the grocery store for 20 minutes… I went in for one thing, thinking I’d be in and out quickly. (If you care, I was buying my wife flowers. Want some extra marriage advice? Buy your wife flowers. Like, today. Even just cheap grocery store flowers. I didn’t realize how meaningful this was to my wife, but it makes her happy for days.) As I walked in, I was moving quick: a man on a mission. I was not expecting what I got… When I came to the flower section, there was an...