🥞 Pancakes > Productivity


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Hey Reader,

For years, I obsessed over productivity.

5 AM alarms.
90-day goals.
Constant hustle.

I told myself it was for my family.
That building something big would one day give them everything.

But one night, I asked my kids a question I’ll never forget:

“What’s your favorite thing about me?”

They didn’t say “You work hard.”
They didn’t mention my ambition or how much I provide.

Instead, they said things like:

“When you make pancakes.”​
​“You make me laugh.”​
​“When you make funny jokes with mommy.”

It hit me hard.

Not because I wasn’t doing enough…
But because I realized I was measuring the wrong things.


Legacy isn’t built through hustle.​
It’s built in the quiet, unnoticed moments.

So now, I still chase big goals…
But I track a different metric:

👉 Did I love them well today?

That’s what they’ll remember.
Not my to-do list.
Not my stress.
Just the tone of my voice when I tucked them in.


If you're a dad, or know one who needs this reminder,
​forward this email to them.

It might be the one thing they needed to hear today.

With you in the journey,
​– Locke

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