You can learn from the mistakes of others or you can learn from your own failure. Let me be your guide as I share lessons & insights from my years of coaching men to become the Hero of their family's story.
Marriage Is A Team Sport
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If you can’t fully commit to being a team with your wife, then your marriage is doomed to failure. My marriage proves this lesson. There were so many times when my wife or I created the struggle by viewing each other as opponents instead of teammates. We sought victory over each other instead of victory with each other. We fought against each other instead of for each other. We tried to win the argument instead of resolve the disagreement. And our marriage suffered for it. We were on the brink of divorce. I wrote a post for Instagram called “8 Steps I Took To Turn My Marriage Around.” The second step, and one of the most pivotal, was “Commit to being a team.” (If you want to read the whole post on IG, click here) The decision to view ourselves as a team changed our entire relationship. If you’re operating as a team, you’re not looking to cut each other down or “win” an argument. You’re looking to build each other up and resolve the conflict. If there needs to be criticism, it’s constructive, not scathing and cruel. If there needs to be correction, it’s loving and productive. It’s not you vs. your wife, it’s you and your wife. Remember: “There is no challenge strong enough to destroy your marriage as long as you are both willing to stop fighting against each other and start fighting for each other.” If you want more perspective on this, you might enjoy Episode 101 of our podcast called "What's Best For The Marriage Isn't Always What's Convenient..." P.S. When you're ready, there are 3 ways that I can help you:
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How To Not Fail As A Father
You can learn from the mistakes of others or you can learn from your own failure. Let me be your guide as I share lessons & insights from my years of coaching men to become the Hero of their family's story.
Frederick Douglass said, "It's easier to build strong children than to repair broken men." To build strong children, we must first repair the broken men that we are. We must re-parent ourselves and become the father we always needed, so we can be the father our children need now. There is no shame in this, only shame in hiding from the responsibility. Part of our calling to build strong children is teaching and showing them how to rebuild and heal themselves. Even a perfect father (spoiler...
One night, my 6 year old seemed upset before bed. As I was tucking her in, I asked her what was wrong. “I’m scared," she replied. ”Of what?” I asked, expecting a monster under the bed or a bad dream from last night… ”I’m scared of YOU,” she said, “I’m scared you’re going to yell at me.” This was one of those answers that was so completely unexpected, it almost gave me whiplash. I realized that instead of protecting her from the monsters, I had become the monster… I had been frustrated having...
50% of marriages end in divorce. We’ve all heard this statistic so often that it’s easy to brush off. With repetition, it’s easy to tune it out and not consider the implications. And of those who do think about it, most don’t think it applies to them. I know that when I got married, it certainly didn’t feel like I was gambling on a coin flip… Let’s add some additional info into the mix and present the math a bit differently… Yes, 50% of marriages end in divorce. In the book You Can Be Right...